What to do when it happens to you…
The loss of a child.
You probably didn’t think it would ever happen to you or someone you love. But it did. It has. Now what?
FIrst, take a deep breath, because this is going to take everything you’ve got. Then ask yourself, “What’s next?” Not next week. Not tomorrow. Not even an hour from now. You have to figure out what you need to do in the next moments. The answer may be as seemingly simple as eating a meal or taking a shower. It may be calling a friend or making an appointment. It may be saying a prayer or meditating.
Before you know it, those moments turn into hours.The days turn into weeks. The months turn into years. You survive. You adopt a new normal. You find joy.
And it all started with day one.
I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist. I’m not a doctor. I am actually an accountant. The truth is, I don’t know any more than you do about how to handle the stress that comes with a major life event… except I’ve been there.Three times in my life, actually.
The first time, I was a young man. I had just graduated high school and had my whole life ahead of me. We were celebrating on the lake with friends. It was late and dark when we tried to drive home. We were going too fast. The jet ski crashed, and my best friend didn’t make it.